Shark-Infested Waters: Pitfalls of Black Queer Online Dating in China – Episode 5

“Call When You Say You’re Going To Call. Sometimes being ambivalent about following up with someone (you kinda/sorta like him but you’re not crazy about him) will lead you to play deliberate phone tag. Maybe you call when you know he’ll be at work. Or you tell him to call when you know you won’t be available. Eventually, when nothing happens because of all the missed connections, you tell yourself, well, at least I tried. No you didn’t. Suck it up and call when you’re supposed to.”
― Mike Alvear, Gay Online Dating: How To Meet, Attract And Date The Hottest Guys On The Internet